Saturday 22nd & Sunday 23rd November 2025

[refitman]

Morning all.

[Frog222]

Stinky weather, is everyone hiding from it ?

[Frog222]

[Sky'sGoneOut]

Looks like my Mum's finally reaching the end. She stopped eating about a month ago and my Dad rang today saying she's now stopped drinking. It's how a lot of people with Alzheimer’s go, they lose the ability to swallow and end up dying as a result of starvation or dehydration. If she won't drink she'll last a week at most.

It's all very sad and I know how this might sound but for my brother and I it'll be a relief. What's lying in that nursing home bed stopped being our mother a long time ago.

Ironically the next problem will be trying to stop my bereaved father from drinking himself to death which is going to be a challenge.

So I'll be away and busy for the foreseeable future, not least because I volunteered to do the funeral arranging (I'm an old goth, these things come naturally to us).

Take care all and speak to you in a few weeks...or a few days if my mother decides to defy medical science.

[refitman]

That's sad news Sky. Hope the next few weeks aren't too hard on you. Take care mate.

[refitman]

Depressing but not surprising. Anything but someone left wing in charge, eh Morgan?

[gilsey]

Sky, no-one will think worse of you and your brother for feeling relief when your Mum dies.
An end to the uncertainty you've all been living with is a relief in itself, I'm speaking from experience here. I hope the end is peaceful, best wishes to you all.

[Frog222]

Sky , that next step --
" Ironically the next problem will be trying to stop my bereaved father from drinking himself to death which is going to be a challenge."

Good luck on that one !

Early May 2012 I was with triathlon daughter when the daughter of a CiF friend called to announce that she hadn't got a clue who I was apart from what was in her dad's phone messages ... and that he had died very suddenly from his CLL leukemia .

I can't remember if I had even one drink, but daughter and son in law were watching me like hawks to see if I raided the bottle ! I remember having a few cigarettes in their garage ...

[Frog222]

So much for having a bad reputation, tho not completely justified

Another was after my 2009 stroke when the Avranches hospital neurologist asked if i drank enough water ( silly question, typical of docs how much is enough ? ). I replied " mostly in the form of beer" which was true at the time . A dear friend had a very special pub, when she closed the door and crawled to bed we would keep it going while paying our way. and opening the back door to other habitués . So my consumption was quite regular ...

Any way I was allowed home at weekends and managed to visibly burn the back of my stroke hand on the woodburner .

A few cms long, like cigarette size .

The next week the doc noticed it --- " Hmmm ! "

[Frog222]

Depressing but not surprising. Anything but someone left wing in charge, eh Morgan?

At the time it looked organised, but we had little idea how far ?

I'm always reminded of the Hodge and the hundreds of Radical Antisemitic Hateposts she 'suffered',, and then it turned out that perhaps half a dozen had any links to the Labour Left .

Then there is Brickgate when Ms Eagle's constituency office was attacked !

[Frog222]

The Prevent System is being overwhelmed as everything and anything is now 'terrorism' ! (Senior civil servant, off the record) Guardian

[Frog222]